Learning Hypnotic Persuasion
If you want to learn how to persuade others to do what you want then it is important to understand how the human mind works or the principles of our NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). This is basically how our mind reacts to certain situations and phrases (green light means go and red means stop) and how we can use this to our advantage. I will show you now the basic steps to follow when using hypnosis in a conversation to persuade someone to do what you want. (This is based on Igor ledochowski's theories on conversational hypnosis)1st step -Learn about your subject
This comes down to asking some open ended questions which are used to get your subject talking about themselves so you can find out more about them such as their likes, dislikes, significant events in their life and most importantly their "dreams" and aspirations. I like to use questions such as "where is your favorite holiday place?", "why is that?", "would that be your retirement location?", "what do you love to do?". As you can see I have created a little story where they open up about all of the issues I previously spoke about.
2nd step - Rapport and connection
This is the part where you create a connection between yourself and your subject by talking a little more about their dreams and aspirations and relate them to yourself in a positive light. This puts their mind at ease, they will drop their guard and start to actually listen to what you are saying simply because you are confirming that you are supporting what matters most to them (their dreams). A recent example of mine was when someone said their dream was to live in Bali and I responded by saying, "I was recently there and I have to tell you that I was getting very tempted to find a way to stay there".
3rd step - Control the conversation and implement suggestion
Now it is time to take control and start to put your suggestions into the conversation. It's all about using positive phrases and words to make them find a solution themselves (with your help). A good example is when they say, "Bali is just a dream and it will probably never happen." My response would be, "you are probably right but didn't you mention earlier it would only cost $X to settle over there." They agree to this and then I lead the conversation and say, "geez property prices are going up in this suburb, if you bought and renovated you could be there in just over a year... I wish I had your opportunity hey." I have put my subject in a position of power where he has the ability to achieve his dream and I do not, this will always trigger them to think about this suggestion and create an image of it becoming a reality because it leads to their dream.
4th step - Close
This is the final step where you confirm once again that the suggestion you implemented is in fact originally their idea and that you will do everything in your power to help them. This leaves them on a high and at the same time in a positive and motivated frame of mind to achieve their goal.
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.., this is so cool to read.... the life of a hypnotist are indeed interesting for me.. i wonder how far you are doing the skill... i am really interested to learn...
ReplyDeleteThank you Blog Sponge, I am actually using these techniques today and I have to say that my life has changed for the better. I feel so confident speaking to anyone now and being able to influence someone has become so much easier then it used to be.
ReplyDeleteIf you seriously want to learn then check out my link at the top right "conversational hypnosis" This is where I have learnt everything I know about hypnosis.
Thanks a lot dear. I love to have such techniques. They are very interesting for me. I shall definitely try these tips.
ReplyDeleteAs a hypnotherapist I have found certain elements of your explanations could be more detailed and accurate but for the people this blog is intended for (non-hypnotherapists) it gives a great insight into the kinds of things I do on a daily basis.
ReplyDeleteMaybe a bit more of a focus on NLP and how the use of language patterns can be influential would be a good next post.
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